Jay Wiseman's SM 101 has taught the fundamentals of safe, exciting SM to tens of thousands of people of all genders and orientations.ﾠ It is our favorite for essential intro to BDSM.
The book offers info on fundamentally important issues such as consent safewords, negotiation (including both short-form and long-form checklists), setting the scene, and aftercare.
Actual techniques described at some length include rope bondage and other forms of restraint, giving and receiving of erotic pain, flagellation, clamps, spanking, lubricants, genital play, anal play, erotic humiliation, knife play, dominant/submissive interactions, slave training, collars, and much more.ﾠ
Sections of the book cover:
- how to run SM events and organizations, general safety considerations, SM during pregnancy, SM and safer sex, and dealing with common SM-related emergencies.
- a special "starter" chapter titled "A Novice Woman's Quick Reference Guide to Erotically Dominating a Submissive Man" that lays out a step-by-step blueprint for a basic SM session.
- a chapter on how to construct an SM "starter set" and a chapter devoted to related practices such as enema play, fetishism, fisting, polyamory, and tantra.
- concludes with a chapter on finding help with problems, a substantial bibliography and reference section, and a fairly large glossary